1. One of the greatest perks of being part of the Business Leadership Program is having access to such a wide range of individuals to help you succeed on your career path. Ranging from the director of the Program, Michael Reuter, to personally selected leadership coaches within the Buccino Leadership Institute, it seems as though I have so many resources at my disposal. However, at times, I do think that I take these resources, especially mentoring, for granted – I feel as though this article helped me realize that. It helped me realize how influential a coach or a mentor can really be in one’s life.

    The biggest eye-opening experiences for me through mentoring so far has been my taking of an emotional intelligence test. The results were shocking at first, until I had a discussion with my leadership coach – and this is where I really see the values of expertise and trust, as mentioned in the article, come into play. Not only was I able to trust my mentor enough to explain to her my feelings without judgement, but also I was able to see the immense expertise she possessed, in terms of helping me better understand myself, my test results, and what I need to do moving forward to be an effective leader.

    I’m not going to lie, I was hesitant at first about really getting down into who I really am. I was scared, as most people are when they find out things about themselves that are not pleasing or that they were not aware of. But through mentoring I have come to the conclusion that it is absolutely necessary to face who you are – to yourself and to those around you.

    When I think of leadership, I think of an individual who understands themselves so well that they no longer have to worry about their own journey but rather can focus on helping better those around them succeed in their respective lives. Aspiring to be a leader hopefully in the finance field one day, I feel it necessary to come to an understanding of myself, and the way to come to such a concise understanding is through the process of mentoring.

    The two other values that the Forbes article mentions as something you should look for in a coach are: compatibility and contrast. I believe that not only are these traits that one should seek out in a mentor but also seek out in their professional lives as well. I would like to hope that one day we would all want to be in a leadership position, and with that comes the responsibility of others. In instances like that, it is necessary to be compatible with individuals in order to let them know that you understand where they are coming from and what warrants their actions and thoughts. But at the same time, it is equally as important to not always agree with them 100% of the time because that is how character is built. It is not built when we are afraid to disagree, but rather when we embrace differences in ideas and in thoughts. As a leader, one should want to be challenged, to be pushed outside of one’s comfort zone, and most importantly to fail. If we act, think, and converse the same way throughout our entire lives, we will never find ourselves in a position to advance professionally.

    Overall, I just wanted to reinforce the fact that I agree with the article in the sense that having mentoring as early on as possible in life really helps one chances of success as a leader in the future. A mentor can help you better understand yourself and how your presence affects others – and to me, that is the simple most important thing to be aware of as a leader. If one can learn to master this awareness, success will not only be achieved in one’s personal life, but also in his or her professional life as well.

  2. Incompetence is scary. Not only is it scary because of its negative connotation. Incompetence is seen as a failure, as a vulnerability. Incompetence is falling short of expectations. “Difficult in the sense that we’ll feel incompetent,” is a statement that outlines the idea that as humans, we shy away from a challenge or new experience simply because it is something that may not be good at or seen up to par when we do it.
    To us, learning is seen as child’s play. Once we leave school, learning no longer holds the scent of fresh new notebooks or sitting down for class during syllabus week. Learning looks different to grown-ups and that is part of what makes is so uncomfortable for us all to face.
    The word “different” became the focal point of the end of the article. As we grow older, a lot of things become different, including how we deal with failure. Mistakes are no longer opportunities to learn, instead a series of failures are cumbersome events that make for learning a new task or completing a new assignment begrudging at best. This failure or incompetency may disrupt our normal course of mundane tasks that we may take part in every day.
    How do we, as college students that are making the transition into young adults, cope with the concept that learning will not always be the delightful task it may have once been? The answer is not simple, but it is all about perspective. One may only think that they are incompetent as a reflection of other events that have taken place. Instead, take the opportunity to see a failure as a potential growth situation. Perspective changes everything. Failures shake up our regular routine and have greater implications than what is meeting the eye. Incompetence gives us all an opportunity to learn, look at my first TID as an example of this idea at work. After submitting it, I realized that I looked wildly incompetent. My initial reaction was not to be bogged down by this though, it was to use this failure in order to fuel future success.

  3. At the tender and ripe age of 20, guidance is something that I look for every step of the way. I try to soak up advice from professionals like a sponge, and always look for questions to ask to find out if I have a good connection with these people that could be potential mentors.
    Of the four things to look for in a mentor, the one that I found most important was “compatibility.” There are numerous ways that compatibility can be represented in a relationship between a mentor and mentee. I know for myself, I find it very important to have a mentor who is a successful female, as I believe women and men can have drastically different experience in office settings and that they can specifically give insight on how to navigate these experiences. Another thing that I find important when looking for a mentor is having a similar personality. I really am looking for someone that I could see myself being like in X amount of years, because I want this person to be a positive influence on my career.
    Contrast is also important as well. I had a mentor who was the head of External Auditing at Verizon for a while. I am going to be frank, I hate accounting. While we didn’t talk balance sheets and income statements, I was looking for a similar career path in terms of getting my MBA right out of school and then entering the workforce. She gave me great insight into fields that I would not have been able to see with a mentor that would have been more closely aligned with what I wanted to do.
    Overall for me though, I am looking for someone who I want to be like when I enter the workforce after college. Like the article emphasized, you don’t always need the CEO, just someone that is going to help you on your journey. Sometimes you find that the most unlikely people that you will have such a positive relationship and that goes without telling it could be your mentor. A mentor is vital for shaping a young professional in the workplace and I feel that it is important for everyone to have one.

  4. Everyone always hears the word mentor in their lifetimes, but in there personal or professional life, I do not see people looking for or using mentors to their advantage. Whatever a human might want to do in their life a mentor will help you start your path to achieve that goal. A mentor is like an experienced or trusted advisor that will help you with anything that you may need help in. When you have a mentor, you are gaining knowledge from someone who has already been in your shoes and will help you get to where you want to be. They know what it takes to be in the position they are in currently. There is a difference between good mentors and great mentors. Great mentors provide intangible resources and important tools that are available through their experiences and vantage point. Great mentors will show interest in your success. They will be focused on helping you be the best person you can be. Mentors will help a person gain confidence, develop skills in a new job, and help you get into a higher position. There are different options to look for the right mentor.
    As stated in the article, compatibility is important in looking for a mentor. A person must be comfortable with talking to that person and not be afraid to say something when they need help. For me, it takes time for me to adjust to meet new people so when I am looking for a mentor I have to make sure that I can be comfortable in asking them questions or going to them when I need assistance with a task or job. Another one of the four things to look for a mentor that I thought was important was trust. Looking for a mentor you want someone that you can turn to without any hesitations and someone you can go to solve issues. It is important to take things slow and there must be an establishment of a few ground rules to avoid any conflict with that mentor. It is always good to get to know your mentor on a personal level to not only build the trust with the mentor but making sure the mentor trusts you. Once, a solid trust level is established, it will be easy to move forward from that. My current mentor would be my dad. My father has always helped me get through the tough times in life and celebrated the good times. From my dad, I gained helpful advice, important information, and he led me a pathway on how to live life the right way. I would not be where I am without the guidance of my father. I feel like I can talk to him about anything and he will always give me his best answer. A mentor is someone who listens to you well, trusts you, and believes in you to be the person you want to be. Everyone, should seek a mentor who will challenge you to improve, is not afraid to ask difficult questions, and will give you honest feedbacks that are both positive and negative. Having a mentor is important as it will help a human in positive ways.

  5. Playing a sport especially baseball which is one of the only sports in the world where you fail more than you succeed and are still considered to be successful. I believe it is crucial to have a mentor that has gone through what you are currently experiencing. Whether it be being in a slump, not getting that starting job you worked so hard for things along these lines. Unfortunately I didn’t have a mentor that could relate to whatever it was I was going through at that time. However I did have my father, my dad can’t hit a baseball to save his life. But when I told him I wanted to play Division 1 baseball it was full tilt from there. My dad began to research the best hitting coaches in the area read dozens of books on hitting mechanics, and the mental side of baseball. To help him better understand the game and what it took to be a D-1 ball player. Although he couldn’t necessarily challenge me physically, that part came when the cleats were thrown on. But he challenged me from a mental side asking me questions, what I thought I did wrong in a particular at bat. Recording every one of my at bats possible to give me instant feedback on what I was doing right or wrong. Leading up to me achieving my goal of playing D-1 college baseball. Now this was a completely different game now I needed serious help if I want to achieve my next goal which is to become a professional baseball player. My dad being the nut he is begins to do research on the best coaches in the country and found a man named Steve Springer who I would consider to be another one of my mentors to this day. Springer played professional baseball and is a mental hitting coach posting videos on what your approach should be and how you should go about playing the game. The funny thing is I never even met him! I would talk to him on the phone whether it be around game time or if I just wanted to talk. Coach Springer has given me multiple tips that my dad no offense to him would ever be able to come up with. He also challenges me to challenge myself to do something specific when playing; I have had this mentor for three years now and since then I was named first team All MAAC played on national television against team USA and was named an all star in one of the top summer leagues in the country. So my question to the readers is, do you have to actually meet your mentor or can you communicate through the phone, and is it possible to have more than one mentor?

  6. Mentors can be very helpful when a person joins a new job or field. Often times mentors are paired up with people in new positions in order to help them improve their line of work or just guide them towards the right direction. They can also be intimidating if a person does not form a good relationship with them. I think trust is the most important thing a person should be able to have with their mentor. After reading this article, I realized that in order to really benefit through a mentor is to ultimately trust them. When a person forms trust, they will be compatible and no issues can arise. It is important to form this type of bond in order to ensure success through your field. When a person is able to confide in their mentor, their opportunities to step out of their comfort zones and experience new things is limitless.

    Personally, I worked at a doctor’s office a little over two years ago and was paired with a mentor. She really helped me feel more comfortable and taught me how to perform my job. I was a little scared at first, but once I confided in my mentor she really helped me succeed. From my experience, I believe mentors are really in a position to help you achieve your goals in your field or within the company. In a way, mentors can also be like professors or teachers. Our teachers provide us with knowledge in order to succeed in our field. In a way, this is a mentor like relationship because we form a professional relationship with our professors as well. We should really value these relationships for the meaningful experiences and use them for our advantages.

  7. When I finally graduate from Seton Hall University, I hope that I will be able to get a job and work in my specialized field: accounting sports management. Now the beginning of any new employee or employer is tough. As a newbie to the company getting accustomed to the surroundings and peers will be a new experience. The company’s job is to now teach its new pupil how things have to be done accordingly to their demands. The company’s best option is to assign these individuals a mentor that will help them and guide them through the process of adaptation to their new work area. Now mentors are put beside the new employers to help them reach their maximum capacity. Now sometimes many people have issues with their mentors at first, for instance, they claim that they are young or that they don’t know what they are doing and so on. To succeed in any job just like in a sport, you have a coach that may do things his/her way but at the end of the day they are experienced and know exactly what they are doing because they too were one day rookies. But to establish a good connection with your mentor you must pursue four qualities, which are combability, contrast, expertise, and trust. Now, these four virtue qualities inside a mentor are crucial because if a working relationship is not established between the mentor and the trainee there will be no progress in the future. The one important quality that a mentor should have is a drive and will to take its trainee out of their comfort zone. In school, they teach students how to write in a structured format and they teach them how to solve 1+1 but in reality, the real world is nothing compared to what we are taught in school. A mentor should resemble the characteristics of a best friend, she/he must gain the confidence of its trainee to offer feedback on certain weakness and aspects that will help him/her increase efficiency and productivity in a workforce. Personally, when I’m on the field playing soccer, I only see what’s visible to my eyes but my coach on the sidelines sees the whole game and when half time kicks in, he tells us everything we did wrong and what we can do to improve our strategies and use our potential to the max to bring home a win. A mentor is not an enemy but rather a lifetime partner, someone who can be trusted when in time of doubt and can be relied on when needed.

  8. I have been lucky to have the opportunities that have been presented to me. If we are talking about mentors, the first one that would come to my mind is one of my old fencing coaches. Though we hadn’t become student and teacher formally until around a year or so after we had met, he would still teach me things here and there. Not only about fencing, mind you, but about life in general. He is about 4-5 years older than I am, so he was finishing university while I was still applying and making my decisions. He taught me a lot about what my life would look like in the near future, and I was always ready to listen. He had been through many experiences, a more recent one being his trip to India with his father, who practices anesthesiology. In turn, my father would mentor my mentor. My mentor was studying business and administration in university, and he would always take the opportunity to ask my father about his thoughts and his experiences regarding starting and running a business. Luckily, we still keep in touch, and he recently started his own business that deals in selling fencing equipment online.

    Regarding the article, the 4 things that one should look for in a mentor – trust, contrast, compatibility, and expertise – were all things that I could comfortably say that my mentor embodied. Even though I respected him as much – or even more – as I would respect an elder, experienced individual, we took to each other’s’ personality quickly. We became friendly overtime, and truly friends after more time. I trusted him with issues that I hesitate to say I would trust with my parents, and he would trust me in turn. He taught me much about many things, fencing being the foremost, and would always challenge me to exceed and excel. Overall, I am grateful to say that I have been fortunate to meet someone I can truly call my mentor, and I hope others can say the same for themselves, as having a mentor greatly aided me in my personal growth both internally and externally. I have become a more wholesome, passionate person with his help, and I hope to become a mentor to someone in the future so that I may pass on my good fortune.

  9. After reading the Forbes article by Ashira Prossack, I felt as if more young adults should read this piece. Having a mentor is important, especially when being a young adult and choosing and career field. I also believe many young people get confused of what exactly a mentor is, since there has never been an established set of guidelines. However, Ashira did a great job with this piece and made the guidelines clear on what to look for in a mentor. This even helped me out as a person who has multiple options for a mentor, now I can take my time and choose one.
    According to the article the four things to look for in a mentor are compatibility, contrast, expertise, and trust. I concur with these four points, as they are very key. First off, compatibility is important because the relationship you have will be the base of the mentorship. You can’t force a relationship either, if it doesn’t feel natural after a few weeks then attempt to find a new mentor.
    Contrast is also an important thing to look for in a mentor. The point of having a mentor is for someone to help you grow and become more knowledgeable. That is why you need someone who is going to push and test your limits. If your mentor doesn’t push you, then they aren’t getting the best of your ability.
    The last two points of expertise and trust somewhat combine together. You need a mentor who has been through similar situations as you and has overcame them already. This way it will be easier to trust them since you know they have already overcome the challenge. Overall, this a piece is a perfect guide when searching for the right mentor. Find someone who has the best interest for ou, but isn’t afraid to push you out your comfort zone. You will regret moving into your career path without a mentor.

  10. Being a college student, I think there are benefits in having a mentor. Especially when someone is more knowledgeable in the field you want to enter. Often times people need guidance and support in their career path and having a mentor can be great to help them improve in certain areas. In the article, it mentioned when looking for a mentor it’s ok to step outside your comfort zone. A common misconception, is that a mentor should be older than you to help you further advance in your career. I agree that it is ok to have a mentor that is younger than you and looks different from you. The differences between a mentor and a mentee could further your career due to new ideas that they can bring. They could also challenge you in areas that you might need some improvements in. The article, states four things to look for in a mentor compatibility, contrast, expertise, and trust; these are great attributes to consider when searching for a mentor. I’m also looking for a mentor and compatibility is very important to me. I agree that the person I choose, I should be compatible with; because I’ll being spend more time with that person. I would like my relationship with my mentor to be positive and not force. I would want to feel comfortable around my mentor to work with him/her. I’m very shy so it would take me a little longer to open up to someone; so, my mentor would need to be patient with me. Also Searching for a mentor, a contrast in personality could be necessary; you need diversity to get a different outlook on things. Having a mentor that thinks differently than me could help me evolve in my career path. I also learned something new in this article it states, your mentor doesn’t have to be in the same field of work as you. Which makes sense, having someone with a different perspective and viewpoint could help you solve problems that you couldn’t have on your own. Another major key in searching for a mentor for me is trust as well. Over time people confide in their mentors trusting them with their information.

  11. Having a mentor can be helpful in many ways when it comes to pursuing a career. This person may help you develop new skills and confidence. So, what exactly should you look for when looking for a mentor? This article talks about the various qualities you should look for in a mentor such as compatibility, contrast, expertise, and trust. The purpose of a mentor is to encourage you to reach your goals as an individual and a future employee. Therefore, this should be someone who you work well with and encourages you to step outside your comfort zone. Through having a mentor, you are supposed to gain knowledge, confidence, and experience. If your mentor is someone who cannot provide you with those, the idea of having a mentor becomes useless. In my opinion, your mentor should help shape you into a better person both in and outside the work force. In order to find a mentor that has the ability to do so, people must be aware of the four qualities mentioned in this article. If the person you are seeking as a mentor does not embody all four of these qualities, the time you spend meeting with that person becomes wasteful. Your mentor should be someone who sees and understands your goals and does his or her very best to help you reach them. When I think of having a mentor, I think of someone who will guide me down the right path but is also not afraid to challenge me along the way. I feel as though your mentor should be someone you don’t previously know. Based on this article, you would get more out of a having someone you don’t already know as your mentor. You want someone who will take you and your goals seriously.

  12. Having a mentor is significant when trying to learn and master a certain task or profession. The article describes there are four items to look at in a mentor, which include compatibility, contrast, expertise, and trust. I agree with the author’s statement that when you have a mentor compatibility is important otherwise the relationship with that person will be forced. I think if you don’t have a good foundation with your mentor, it will be very difficult to work with them and trust them. I think trust is the most important factor when having a mentor. In any relationship trust is everything, especially with a person who will be teaching you, in order for you to do your best. Expertise and contrast are also very important because you want your mentor to be an expert in their profession, so that you can eventually be that expert as well. Contrast is important because going out of your comfort zone builds confidence, which is important to have in any profession. Also having a mentor that is different from you is important because it will help the person be more open minded.
    I have had two mentors for the past few months and they both fit in all these categories. I am able to get along with them very well, which makes the working environment positive and we never have any conflict. The most important item for me with my mentors is trust. I have complete trust in my mentors. Trust is built over some time, but I have always been able to confide in my mentors. Having a mentor that has the expertise, that I can trust, builds my confidence, has helped me excel in the work I do. I am very grateful for my mentors and I would recommend everyone to find a mentor that is best suited for them!

  13. This article is super informative in describing the things to look for that define an appropriate mentor. The first aspect of a good mentor is their compatibility in regards to you. Time must be given to develop a relationship with the possible mentor, but signs of conflict that arise should be red flags that may result in ending the relationship. It is someone you would spend a lot of time with, so you must get along with him or her.
    Additionally, a good mentor should be able to get you out of your comfort zone and challenge you to do things you normally would not do. I can relate to this aspect as I have experienced it, and it made me a better person without a doubt.
    Good mentors are those with expertise, not those with the most years or biggest title. A mentor who has experienced what you are going through and has solutions to navigate your situation is way more valuable than someone who has not.
    Finally, there must be complete trust between the mentor and the mentee. Because the relationship will deal a lot with confidential matters, there must be mutual trust. I completely agree with this, as it implies a degree of buying into the mentor’s methods and resolutions to a specific situation. I found this article to be both relatable and informational as I will be entering the workforce in a couple years.

  14. During my senior year of high school, I had to do a six-week mentorship program. I was initially apprehensive because my mentorship was in marketing, which is not the primary area I plan to work in. However, I felt the program was vital because I was able to get my first experience working in a professional office environment, and I also had a great mentor. My mentor was eager to teach me important information like expectations for people entering the marketing industry, various tricks of the trade, and lessons she learned along the way. Even though I do not plan to work in marketing, most of this information has stuck with me, and I believe you can apply it to any line of work.
    The article lists four qualities that any good mentor should possess. They are compatibility, contrast, expertise, and trust. I feel that these four qualities do a good job of encompassing what it takes to be an effective mentor. I am glad the writer included both compatibility and contrast, because at first glance, these two qualities seem like they contradict each other. Compatibility is necessary for any healthy professional relationship because people need to be able to collaborate and share a working space together amicably. Still, contrast is important because you do not want to surround yourself with people who think or act exactly like you do, because then you will not be able to learn as much or see things from a different perspective. Finally, expertise and trust are important qualities because you want your mentor to be very knowledgeable about the industry and to be able to help you overcome challenges they have also experienced, and you also need to be able to trust that your mentor has your best intentions in mind when giving you their insights.

  15. Having a mentor is something I hear a lot about, but something I have not considered very thoroughly for myself. Perhaps it is because I really don’t know where and how to start looking for one. This article interests me because it answers some of those preliminary questions and offers a framework on what to look for in a mentor.
    The first idea they brought up, compatibility, was one that I quickly translated into my mind as something a little more familiar: a friend. Compatibility means that the relationship between you and your mentor does not need to be forced, it flows naturally and with little effort. This idea is important to me because it takes away one of the concerns I had about having a mentor. When I envisioned a mentor I saw the relationship being more rigid and forced. But in reality this article is saying you want and will likely find quite the opposite. A mentor is like a friend, there to give you guidance, advice, and tell you the truth whether it’s pretty or not.
    Contrast is another idea they brought up, and one that immediately got me worried. When I hear contrast, I think conflict. So why would you want a mentor that conflicts with you? Well, that’s not exactly what they meant. They meant that you want a mentor that brings another perspective, someone who will help you see situations in a different light. After thinking about it, I agree that this is extremely important. What this does it limits the chance of confirmation bias, which is the idea that people seek out sources that will confirm what they already think. When looking for a mentor, you want someone that will challenge you and improve your ability to understand occurrences in life, not someone who will always agree with you.
    Expertise is another must that the article mentioned. This one is a bit more straightforward than the rest. You want to make sure that the mentor actually knows what they are talking about. What this means to me is that maybe you should look for mentors outside of where you might be comfortable. Reach out to those people that you think will never respond. You never know, maybe that expert will respond and be a great mentor throughout your career.
    The mentor having expertise leads right into being able to trust them. Mentors have a lot of experience and knowledge to turn over, but that all means nothing if you don’t trust them enough to take their advice. This is a big reason that I was weary to try to find a mentor before, because I feared that I would seek this person out, take their time, and then not trust them and not take any of their advice. This would not only waste their time but waste mine as well. Trust is imperative and something I will need to work on a little bit if I want to have a mentor in the future.
    Reading this article definitely helped me to understand more about what a mentor should bring to the table and how important they can be. I will definitely look deeper into the idea.

  16. Reading this Forbes article, I wish I could relate more to the mentor topic, because I’ve never had a mentor assigned to me. I think the importance of a mentor to young children/teens is important, because having someone other than their parents to guide them shows them that it is important to build those relationships which fall into the work place eventually. Building relationships and making connections either through coworkers or mentors really help within a career, and I don’t think it is really understood as a younger adult.
    I think this article brings up many important topics, one of them being the expertise of the mentor when choosing one. Choosing a mentor can be extremely difficult, because people think having the person with the most years of experience is what is best for them, when in reality, who knows if you will actually “mesh” well with that person. Working with someone who will be honest with you, and show you the ropes does not mean that they have been doing the job for 20+ years, it just means they know their job and they work well with you. Also, this article brings up the fact of working with someone who will bring you out of your comfort zone. This is interesting to me, because having someone who is the same exact person as you mentoring you would literally be pointless. You want someone who is going to push you to do better and learn more, while taking you out of your comfort zone to really learn what is to know about the job. Having a mentor who is willing to give you the constructive criticism that is needed will not only help with looking at an idea with a different perspective, but will show you that pointing out not only the good things, but the negative things as well is what really happens in the real world.

  17. This article is brilliant, and something that everyone should try to do, especially younger people when looking either for a job or to increase productivity to move up the ranks in work. Having a mentor is a necessity in self-improvement and most people don’t even realize they have one until they really think about it. After looking at the four traits that are key to mentors, I realized that a mentor doesn’t have to be some person who is hired to do that specific job. It has to be personal, the person has to know you and what you are capable of to in fact get you to reach your goals.
    Looking back at it now, my father was a great mentor for me growing up. Reflecting on it, the fights and arguments that you have aren’t because of hate and disapproval, they are because that person knows what you are capable of, and you aren’t reaching your full potential. A mentor knows what it takes to get the best out of you and even though you might not appreciate the behavior in the moment, you are going to be so happy that it happened down the road.
    As you progress in life, and continue to learn through experiences I think that it is important that you try to be the best mentor that you can be as well. Not only will you be doing the right thing in helping someone become a better person or employee, but it will help stay on your path by leading by example. Leading by example is the easiest way for someone to follow in your foot steps, why should anyone believe what you are saying if you don’t do that thing yourself? It will help both yourself and the younger generation trying to live life being the best mento you can be,

  18. I really enjoyed reading this article because they elaborate on what I think are the most important things to look for when seeking a mentor. The relationship between a mentor and mentee should have a strong connection and should be able to help both of the people involved. Having a mentor can help someone excel and give them the opportunity to be the best in their field.

    The first thing they talked about was compatibility. When you work with someone closely, both individuals need to be able to work together for a long period of time. Not all relationships will work out right away, so it is important to give someone time and see how it goes in the long run. In a company or organization you work at, you might be assigned someone that will be your mentor. If you are assigned someone, that does not mean you are “stuck” with them. If you do not think it is a good fit, there is always someone you can talk to about making rearrangements.

    The next thing that was spoken about was contrast. This is a trait that I think is very important when searching for a mentor. It is always to have someone view what you are doing from a different perspective. They could give you good criticism by seeing what you are doing from a different point of view. Also, being taken out of your comfort zone can help you adapt to many different situations.

    The third thing that the writer talked about was expertise. If someone is looking over you and trying to help you with a certain topic, they have to have the knowledge needed to help you with whatever it is. Someone who does not have enough knowledge to help you with your journey should not be your mentor because you are not getting the proper guidance to reach your goals.

    The last thing that was touched on was trust. Trust is a very important aspect in any kind of relationship. Since you are going to spend a majority of time with your mentor, it is important that you and the other individual trust each other because it is possible for you two to start telling each other personal things. Also, with trust, there is a chance that your relationship will be more successful when there is a great amount of trust between the two of you.

  19. This article does a great job of articulating all the important aspects of a mentor. In my opinion, these aspects are resourceful for any type of successful relationship, not just for a good mentor. The four things Forbe lists to look for in a good mentor are compatibility, trust, contrast, and expertise. For any good relationship to work out well, it is best if your partner has different than you. Differences make you look at different aspects of life. An example that I can best compare this article to would be my coaching experience. As a cheer coach, it is good when a new pair of eyes view the routine in order to gain a different perspective. The same thing works when looking for a mentor. In order to be the best version of yourself, you need someone that thinks differently in order to push you farther. Like the last powerpoint shown in every law class this year, it is important to “think different.” It is important that your mentor is able to make you think differently, but also that you get along well with the person. If your mentor is not someone you can fully trust, then there will be no self-improvement. All in all, Forbes does a great job in this article explaining what every good mentor should contain.

  20. This article gives a great understanding to young adults at my age of nineteen on what we should look for in our future mentors. Mentors are the people in life that can make our lives a whole lot better because of their knowledge. There are two different types of mentors in my opinion, which are for general life and for our careers. Those who are mentoring us in a certain field of work that we choose to go into, they will be able to guide us through the rough beginnings and truly help us understand everything that our career entails. They have gone through everything that we will be going through and can steer us in the right direction of things. They can convey their past experiences to us which try to make a better success for the “student” in the future. This is where the compatibility trait that the article talks about would work at its best because you want the similarity here so that you can succeed from having a mentor that took the same path that you want to. There are also the mentors that give us general life advice. They guide us through rough patches and situations that you have to deal with in our everyday lives. This is the type of life advice that you would be getting from someone like a grandparent. The contrast trait the article talks about is very helpful in this case. It allows us to see different perspectives of things that we wanted to do empower us to try new things or do something that will make us feel uncomfortable. The last two traits of expertise and trust fit perfectly into both of these types of mentors because they are both necessary for both. If you do not trust the person that is giving you advice, and if they do not trust you, each person will hold back valuable information because they don’t know what will happen once they reveal the information. Lastly, expertise in important because time is valuable. A young adult cannot be wasting time with a mentor that really does not know what they are doing themselves because it does not benefit you.

  21. I thoroughly enjoyed this article about mentorship. For myself, as a person of color, I think that it’s so important to have mentors that continually motivate, support and inspire me to dream bigger, do more and essentially stay on the path towards achieving my goals, both personally and professionally. The points that I found the most helpful were seek out a mentor that is different from you (whether that be economically speaking, a different gender/expression/sexuality, practices a different religion or is even affiliated in a different political way from yourself) and to also spend time with a mentor that will offer honesty, always. Diversity is such an important facet of the human experience because it encourages growth and renewed perspective. With a mentor that is different from myself, I have the opportunity to share my ideas with someone that can offer me a world view that inspires mind expansion, allowing me to think innovatively in ways that were once inaccessible or unknown. By sharing stories, goals, dreams and theories with someone else, I can rest assured that I’ll be pushed to think differently about where I stand with my ideas, both professionally and personally—internally and externally. The juxtaposition between worlds breeds transformation and it will also teach me how to stand confidently by my convictions and goals, as I’m sure that a different perspective will challenge me to think in a multifaceted fashion. I also liked the fact that this article talked about working with a mentor that values honesty. Mentorship is an interesting facet of relationship building because at its core its about being able to straddle two ends of a spectrum: personal and professional, while other relationships in life are mostly made of the former conditioning. This duality renders honesty equitable, so I think that it was really helpful to include that trait as a thing of importance. When your mentor is truthful it cultivates a relationship that’s never about false mental hierarchy or appeasement—instead, it’s a real-ationship that is only concerned with uplifting one another so that we both benefit from the interaction and time spent sharing not only our goals and ideas, but our lives with one another.

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